It took me so long to create another blog, I actually i do not know where to begin, a lot of things happen that made me idle. Sometimes in our life we cannot exactly explain how we feel, we can only seek for total seclusion while going through a lot of difficulties, Sometimes we are at the edge of the clip, we don't know what next, is it giving up, or trying our best of luck, jump, swim and let the wave carry us somewhere we don't even know.
A lot of individuals who are laughing so hard are dying inside. So why do they pretend to be happy if you are not, you may ask. The truth is smile is the best way to answer things you cannot even explain. Smile and say you are fine is the best solution for you not to explain yourself because you yourself don't even know what is going on.
The first 6 months of 2022 was worst for me, and July is consider the end of my limit as a person..... I may not be able to retaliate my situation but i wanna share the lesson i have during the time that i am feeling so down and have reached rock bottom.
1. SOCMED DETOX
Social media is the world of perfect curated life, notification makes me feel so stress, someone just got new job, got promotion, having a birthday, visiting new places, has boyfriend, got engage, getting married, showing romantic moments, oh my God! name it.
When you are someone who does not have any of those always being online will add to your agony. You feel so down and your life is nothing compared to others.
Am not saying that you quit social media, but what i am saying is try to eliminate your presence, because the worst is you will create a post that you may regret in the future, so better to seclude your presence when your thoughts are scattered.
2. EMBRACE YOUR PAIN
The very first thing you can do when your going through something is to acknowledge the current situation. Trying to be present in the situation will help you alleviate your suffering because only by admitting what is wrong you will be able to find the right solution for whatever you're going through.
Cry it, admit that you are weak, you don't have to talk it around, you just have to be alone and gather your thoughts. Evaluate your pain by asking yourself, what am I crying for? will this problem matter after one year? what are my options? ect...
3. TRY ALTERNATIVE JOY
What makes you happy? is it riding a bicycle? taking photos? playing sports? then do it!
Doing things that makes you happy such as your hobbies will help you have another world and forget what your going through. You may say that it contradicts point No.2 which is to embrace you pain. But it's not, believe me.
Knowing you can do more will boost your confidence and will help you find solution to your problem.
4. NO, IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE
In our adult life, especially those people who grew up having a strong cultural upbringing it is very difficult to say no. Because we are so afraid to hurt the people around us, we are sad to disappoint them and not being able to give things that make them happy. But if we live life only considering what other people has say about us, what other people think of us, and what other people feel about us then we are not really living for ourself, we are living for them, and we will end up disappointed.
Learning that no is a complete sentence, that i don't have to explain why is so powerful. My criteria for this is simple.
1. If saying yes to other people means saying no to myself then it's a NO!
2. If it's not 100% yes, then it's a NO!
5. DISCONNECT
When your going through a lot you want to be alone and that's okey! During the time that i am into a deep trouble i disconnect with so many people, specially those people that want nothing but to to gossip.
6. LOVE YOURSELF
No one beats a person who has deep self love, a deep self respect, because having those means you will not do things that will bring you huge agony, you will see to it that you have calculated risk. Loving yourself means you will walk away to the things that will hurt you, things that no longer lead you to your dreams. Loving yourself means self-priority, its not being selfish.
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