When we are young and free we become careless and we become abusive of ourselves and our freedom, we overdo things we suppose not too! We experiment life allot that at times we suffer the consequences when we grow up a little more adult. Of course when we are young adult its our time to try so many things so we still have the chance to correct ourselves and our mistakes. But not to the point that we destroy ourselves.
Many of us are still young by heart and so we should keep it that way because it will help us have a positive outlook in life. But also during our very young years we have made so many things that we regret alot, and we wish we could re-do and do it differently. For me whatever mistakes you made when we are young should serve as your stepping stone to be the best version of yourself. So cheer up! Lets discuss it.
1. One day millionaire
I was at the Congress of the Philippines as USAID scholar when i had hold money at the age of 19. At that time 22K allowance was huge for me because i only normally get allowance which is mostly 500PHP when i was in college and that was for a week. I was overwhelmed that i blow up my money all the time. It is true that life isn't about the amount of money you get, but the amount of money you save. If i were to bring back time i should be wise in spending it.
So when i went abroad i made the same mistakes with a twist and that is to spend my money on gold jewelry. If you will ask my present self i should have done better by budgeting like putting my money into different basket, what i mean by that is to have emergency fund, ready available cash, investments, and spend also on self rewards. Am glad that its not yet late, am trying my best to cope up!
2. Too emotional
Our emotions are so true when we are young, we believe that what we are feeling matters, that we should matter and people should listen to us. But often times its just our period or we are affected by the dramas we watch or into. If we could use our logic and take time before doing things slowly before arriving into our decision, maybe we could have a better result. Blame it to our youthful and being being in-experience!
3. We know it, so we can
In our early 20's (like 21 years old) we thought that we know everything that we become fearless. But the truth is we know very little things about the world, we are in-experience about what life really was and we decide based on our emotions.
It is correct that we must develop our self confidence and should start doing things on our own at this stage, but we should consider the advantage and disadvantage of our plans before we should execute it, in this way damage will be less. Taking pre-cautionary measurement is a must.
4. What If's
So many people are afraid of making mistakes in their life that they left the world un-explore. Whenever i share my travel journey to my friend they would always asked me "aren't you sacred of traveling to another country alone" i honestly do not have answer except "it was fun". And they would always say "your brave!".
The truth is, we regret most of the things we did not do, than the things we do and for me that is the very scary positions. Of course we have to be caution that's why we should always do calculated risk. When i say calculated risk we mean to say that we should equip ourselves with correct information from reliable sources before we jump into it. So we know how to maneuver life. Regret is too heavy to carry and we cannot bring back the time we waste. Making up too late is like traveling by foot when you should be fying by airplane.
5. Doing what the majority does
I remember the time after graduating high school, almost everyone are getting BS Nursing, and i always tell my classmates "my patient will die if am a nurse".
Thanks God i did not take nursing course. Because i do not think that i can make it. So, although i end up graduating Psychology i still could not find answer if your were to ask me if why did i take psychology as my course perhaps i would say "less math". But i failed anyway! (haha). My point is, if what the majority does doesn't adhere to our wants and goals then we should do whatever our heart want so that when at times that we feel tired we will only rest and never quit.
6. Not learning enough
They say that experience is the best lesson. But this is too costly. So i agree with what most of the mentor when they say "Learn from the experience of others and never do it". One popular example that i can share on this regard is on "investment". Too many people want easy money, quick money scheme, but the truth is no shortcut to success. If we only do our homework very well then there would be no people who lost their hard earn money because of wrong investments.
On the other hand, i see so many OFW's who spend their money for love and end up bankrupt. I always say this "Your heart and your money are two different things and so if you know it, i hope that you will use this lesson to safeguard yourself". Again this is not about being stingy or whatsoever, its just right for us to love ourself even better than anyone else because we cannot give what we don't have.
7. Not Loving our self more than enough
Perhaps young people are people pleaser (am speaking based on experience). We tend to do things for the people we love. Our parents, our siblings, our friends and our significant others. We give alo't that we forgot to fill our own cup of love. We will only realized this when we feel burned out and sometimes its too late to fix our broken pieces and we end up beating ourself. Being a young adult, loving ourself is a must! A mandatory, a necessary! Its not selfish its just right!
So i hope that if you made mistakes when your young, you will use it become better version of yourself! So cheers!
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